Much of my work with families involves helping them look beyond visible behaviour and understand what may be happening within each person, between family members and across generations. In my therapy room, I often meet parents who are highly capable in their professional lives. They lead teams, make difficult decisions and solve complex problems with confidence. Yet at home, a closed door, a one-word reply or another argument with their teenager can leave them feeling helples

Many of the adult children I work with somewhat carry the same paradox: They feel suffocated by closeness, yet deeply lonely in the distance they've created to protect themselves. For many, distance feels like survival. "If I get too close, I will lose myself." The boundary may feel somewhat harsh, but it serves a purpose. It protects them from reactions, expectations, disappointments, and old wounds that still feel too painful to revisit. Then, as parents age, another emoti

One year ago at the graduation of completing the advance intensive course, I made a stronger commitment to deepen my understanding and application of Multigenerational Family Therapy in my work with individuals, couples, and families. Six years into learning this modality, I am grateful to now be certified as a multigenerational family therapist by Prof Dr. Maurizio Andolfi. This journey has stretched and grounded me in equal ways. It has deepened how I see others and myself

In my therapy work, I often advocate for family therapy, to work directly with the person my clients have struggles with, to invite the family. When a client says, “My parents won’t come,” or “My teenager refuses,” I don’t hear a scheduling problem. I hear resistance. Often, it is protection—against shame, blame, vulnerability, or fear. Sometimes, it is protection against one more demand in a life already too heavy. If I meet that resistance too directly, I meet the defences.